Believe you are a powerful force in your future,
and act accordingly
By Sharon Esonis, Ph.D. Date: 02/24/2013
"Optimism is a strategy
for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be
better you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so. If
you assume there is an instinct for freedom, there are opportunities to change
things, there’s a chance you may contribute to making a better world. The choice
pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is
one who makes opportunities of his difficulties."
President Harry S.
With the advent of the Positive Psychology movement, there has been a great
deal of increased interest in the topic of optimism. Voluminous and robust
research has brought wonderful news indeed for Life Coaching and the field of
psychology in general.
Not only does an optimistic approach provide amazing benefits, but it can be
learned by anyone… yes, even by dyed-in-the-wool, lifelong pessimists! Optimism
has been shown to generate improved physical and mental health, longevity,
performance excellence, creativity and success in attaining goals and dreams.
According to Professor Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania,
optimism has even played a significant role in the outcomes of professional
sports and Presidential elections.
Learning the strength of optimism through Life Coaching is a powerful way to
find your Positive Path. In my professional training and experience, I have
become convinced that working with clients on the cognitive and behavioral
components of optimism can be life altering. The process is enjoyable with
results often occurring within a short time frame.
What is this promising elixir? Optimism is a belief system with three major
components: first, the belief in your own power to make your life and your
future better; second, the belief that negative events in your life are not
permanent, personal or pervasive; and third, the belief that positive events in
your life are permanent, personal and pervasive.
Permanent refers to the lasting effects of an event. If you make a mistake,
fail at something, run into an obstacle or encounter some misfortune, do you
tell yourself that this is not going to go away or change, that this problem is
permanent? Or do you, as the optimist, tell yourself that this is a temporary
state of affairs? If something positive happens, do you tell yourself it is
temporary, or as the optimist, you tell yourself that it will have a permanent
and positive effect on your future?
Personal refers to your interpretation of who is responsible for the event
and why it happened. If you are besieged by a negative event, do you believe you
are a victim or that you brought this terrible thing upon yourself? Or, as the
optimist, do you believe bad things happen to everyone, that your response to
them is what will make the difference in the future? If something positive
happens, do you tell yourself that this is a fluke, or as the optimist, do you
tell yourself that you had a lot to do with this welcome occurrence?
Pervasive pertains to your belief about how other parts of your life will be
affected by the event. In the case of a negative event, do you believe this will
have a counterproductive influence on other aspects of your life, or as the
optimist, believe that the effect will be related only to the area in which it
occurred? If a positive event occurs, are you convinced that the results will
only be beneficial to this specific part, or as the optimist, do you think that
the sunshine will spread throughout your life?
Optimism is about positive, can-do beliefs, expectations, choices and
strategies, about knowing you are responsible for your life and that you have
the ability to be effective on your own behalf. The optimist learns all he can
from adversity and then propels himself forward toward his goals and vision. The
optimist takes credit for the things he has accomplished, savors the victories,
and utilizes them as fuel for the ongoing journey of dreams and discovery.
If you’d like more in-depth information on ways to build and maintain
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If you’d like to discover your own Positive Path, one that can lead to a life of fulfillment and ultimate personal power, contact Sharon Esonis at (760) 746-7284, or send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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